According to Alice Miller, when we stop denying the reality of our past, we can then begin to mourn. When we begin to mourn, our contempt will start to cease. Miller speaks to the past and states that some things cannot be changed as they are irreversible. When we deny the reality of our experiences or the emotions surrounding them, we may begin to experience contempt. Contempt doesn't feel good and we can use it in an effort to deny our reality and to attempt not feel our emotions. Miller goes on to write that we are liberated when we consciously experience our emotions.
I hope that you give yourself permission to accept, express and own the reality of your past. I also hope that you learn to express your emotions consciously instead of denying them, regardless of what others in your life may tell you. We all have our own experience and our own truths, and we all deserve the right and freedom to our reality.
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