Being safe is more than just not feeling like you are in danger and more than just not being scared. Being safe can be measured by how you feel both emotionally and physically. It is imperative that we learn to live, work and play in what is and what feels safe to us. It can be helpful to ask yourself the following questions:
1. Is my home environment safe?
-Is there someone in my home that makes me feel unsafe
-Are there things in my home that make me feel unsafe (these can be things that remind you of unsafe times in your life, like a spatula or blanket or a familiar smell) or it can be too much clutter, or things not being arranged in a way that is inviting to you
- Does the position of your furniture in your home make you feel safe, would you feel safer if it were in a different position, are things on your walls that you don't like, are there things that you can bring into your home that would make you feel more safe
2. Is my work environment safe
-Do you work in an environment that promotes safety? This environment would help you to feel relaxed and at peace even if you are doing a difficult job. Doing a dangerous job causes us to feel unsafe, so it is important that we do what we can to feel safe
3. Are the things that I do for fun safe
- This also includes being around people who make you feel safe
- Constant arguing or being called names causes us to feel unsafe
- Being hit, held down, screamed at etc. causes us to feel unsafe
Take a look at how you are living by using theses three areas and then make some decisions about what you would like to change so that you can feel safer moving forward.
Take care everyone, and I hope you protect your safety and address areas where you are currently unsafe!