Hello Everyone,
Over stepping boundaries in a relationship is very common. When we go past "middle" in a relationship, we can slowly begin to lose ourselves, build resentments and become codependent. A relationship needs to be about exchange, a healthy relationship has a feeling of ebbs and flows. A relationship that is functional will be a two way street. A relationship that is dysfunctional will be a one way street. In a dysfunctional relationship, one partner will be allowed to say how they feel, say what they need and set boundaries for what they do not want in their lives, while the other partner is not allowed access to these same rights.
A dysfunctional relationship will have double standards, and you will know you are in one because you will feel drained every time you are around this person. This is not limited to romantic relationships, it can be any relationship.... This can be in a friendship, a relationship with a family member or at work. The next time you are feeling drained after being around someone, ask yourself, "Did I go past middle, did I continue to give even when it was clear it was not being reciprocated?" If the answer is yes, you may want to do some work with your boundaries and begin setting some with this person. Check out our other blogs to come for more information.
Thanks for reading, and we are hoping that all of your close relationships offer you exchange and that they are a two way street!
Over stepping boundaries in a relationship is very common. When we go past "middle" in a relationship, we can slowly begin to lose ourselves, build resentments and become codependent. A relationship needs to be about exchange, a healthy relationship has a feeling of ebbs and flows. A relationship that is functional will be a two way street. A relationship that is dysfunctional will be a one way street. In a dysfunctional relationship, one partner will be allowed to say how they feel, say what they need and set boundaries for what they do not want in their lives, while the other partner is not allowed access to these same rights.
A dysfunctional relationship will have double standards, and you will know you are in one because you will feel drained every time you are around this person. This is not limited to romantic relationships, it can be any relationship.... This can be in a friendship, a relationship with a family member or at work. The next time you are feeling drained after being around someone, ask yourself, "Did I go past middle, did I continue to give even when it was clear it was not being reciprocated?" If the answer is yes, you may want to do some work with your boundaries and begin setting some with this person. Check out our other blogs to come for more information.
Thanks for reading, and we are hoping that all of your close relationships offer you exchange and that they are a two way street!
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