In Brian Martin's book Invincible, he identifies lies that those of us who grew up in a home with childhood domestic violence (CDV) believe. One lie that children raised in a home with domestic violence may believe, is that it is safer to be alone. This lie makes it very difficult for the child in adulthood to connect and to trust. CDV makes it difficult to allow someone in and to open up and be vulnerable with them. This lie also makes it difficult to trust your partner and to be open with them about thoughts, feelings and needs. Martin's book goes on to explain that when we do connect and place our trust in others, we find great happiness and fulfillment.  If this blog hits home with you and your struggles with connecting, I encourage you to read Invincible by Brian Martin.
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Changing our behavior or our way of thinking can be very difficult and frustrating. It is important to realize the successes you have made through learning. The truth is, you can learn and you have learned a great deal up to this point in your life. If you feel stuck or helpless with a pattern in your life, remind yourself, "I can learn". I can learn something new and something different, things can change. Progress is happening right now, even in this moment, just because we back slide or begin to struggle with a recurring issue, it does not mean that we are not progressing. Change takes time, but we can find a way to learn and make new decisions gradually that are based on learning and this is progress. 
Take care everyone, focus this week on being mindful of what you have learned, what you still need to learn and that you are learning right now even in this moment. 
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John Bradshaw breaks down the rhythm of life- holding on and letting go- to it's most basic and primal expression...breath. Bradshaw describes holding on and letting go as "life". When we meditate, we practice this symbol of holding on and letting go. When we focus on our breathing, we reconnect to ourselves. We discover that we do have the ability to hold on and to also let go. Breath is life, when you are having a difficult time holding on or letting go, take your mind off of your issue for just a moment and reconnect with your breath. Breathing in through your nose, holding the breath and then letting it go will begin to help you to address areas in your life where you may be struggling. When we practice breathing, we are practicing the act of holding on and letting go. 
Take care everyone, I hope you practice the art of breathing and thanks for reading...